Isn’t it funny how in a marriage that if the man wants to purchase something the couple does not have the money, but if the woman wants it, they can purchase it? That men do not want their woman to change and the woman wants her husband to change? When I first got with my wife, I wore trendy cloths like Abercrombie and Fitch and I had ear rings as well. My wife hated the cloths and earrings and slowly but surely she got me to change to more "age appropriate" clothing…Dockers and Polo shirts.
We went cloths shopping or my daughter several weeks ago and went into the old stores that I used to shop at and I said I wanted to get some of the clothing and to start to dress trendier. She laughed and said that I was old enough to be some of the people’s father that worked in the store. I felt insulted! I feel like I am still "young" and people guess me for my late 20s. She said that Mark dresses nicely and I said that he dresses trendier than I do; she disagreed with me. Mark is a doctor and we ride mountain bikes together all the time. She asked me if I was having a "mid-life crisis" and I plainly said no.
So, needless to say, I lost that battle. I do dress nice; I just want to dress like a young kid again sometimes. My daughter is like go ahead and get some of the clothes and put your earrings back in! My wife will have none of that…
I love my wife for being herself and for putting up with all my crap...
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a married friend of mine once put it like this:
ReplyDelete'if your wife says something about you that you don't like then pretend you didn't hear it and then ask her a question about something else as a diversion.
if that doesn't work then ask her a question, e.g. 'why do you say that/think that?' etc etc. the idea is to keep asking her questions until she realises that her actions are exactly the actions that she wouldn't tolerate had they been carried out by you'
it seems to work for him as it means his wife really thinks through her objections before voicing them. if she does voice them then she's obviously given them serious thought.
if they're valid then you can work with them.
they both seem happy.
good luck
p.s. i guarantee that if you embrace the idea of dressing like an older man (as she wants you to) then one day you will be defending your style to her as she nags you for dressing like an old man who doesn't care about his appearance anymore.
it's a minefield!
That's right, I do dress way better than you girly fisher
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